“We’ve been bamboozled long enough. The old saying ‘out of sight, out of mind’ has become the social norm, much to the delight of child predators.”—The Yello Dyno email continues.

Yes, I agree we have been bamboozled long enough by predators—and society is also being bamboozled by Yello Dyno. Yello Dyno’s focus regarding child sexual abuse looks at the sexual child abuse predator outside the family. This is totally misleading. Studies reveal that 80% of children, who are sexually abused, are abused by a family member; 19% are abused by people the child knows and trusts.

Yello Dyno techniques will help children who are targeted by a known person outside the family. However, the majority of children are being sexually abused by a family member. Government statistics report that only 1% of children, who are sexually abused, are abused by a stranger—however, that is what the media reports. Thus, the media is contributing to bamboozling society.

ABC Dateline reporter, Chris Hansen has presented a series, “To Catch a Predator.” Using decoys acting as a minor on the Internet Instant Messaging system predators are lured to a house where a decoy is waiting and the Dateline hidden camera crew is recording the event, while police watch nearby waiting to arrest the predator as soon as the predator has entered the house and learned from Chris Hansen that it is a set-up.

May 22, 2006, the 109th Congress 2nd session declared June as Internet Safety Month. Recently, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and Cox Communication released a highly disturbing survey of youth between 13 and 17 years old about their use of the Internet.

• 4 percent of the children questioned have had face-to-face meetings with people they met on the Internet. One teen meeting a stranger is one too many.

• 30 percent said they have considered meeting someone face-to-face who they know only through the Internet.

• 71 percent reported receiving messages online from someone they didn’t know.

• 45 percent said they have been asked for personal information.

The list of tips for parents to protect their child on the Internet implies a predator could reach through the Computer screen and pull the child into an abyss.

The best tip to protect your child from any would-be child Internet predator is to provide them with the love, nurturing, guidance, connectedness and time they need to thrive in life. Children who have high self-esteem and strong family connections seldom are lured by a predator. The guidance they need regarding Internet conversations, no matter the web site is the same as when a stranger calls on the phone or rings the doorbell.

• Never tell a stranger on the Internet any personal information—the same as NEVER telling anyone on the phone that they are home alone or reveal any identifying information.

• Never trust a stranger on the Internet no matter how kind or friendly they seem to be—or if they tell you, “I know your Mom/Dad.”

• Never meet an Internet friend (stranger)—the same as NEVER opening the door to a stranger or getting in a strangers car.

I am baffled that many parents argue against what I am saying when I speak at teachers’ conferences, PTO meetings, day care centers and pediatricians’ offices. “That will never happen in my family or my neighborhood.”—they argue. They seem to only believe the neighborhoods on the other side of town are vulnerable to sex offenders. Studies reveal sex offenders are from all professions and economic status.

When will the majority come out of its well-guarded denial and stop Pedophiles/Ephebophiles from proliferating. Incarcerating sex offenders after the damage is done does little to stop the crime. The majority of sex offenders get out of jail in four years—85% re-offend. Not to mention the majority of sex offenders are in the family. We need to change the approach to stopping this insidious crime.

Children are abused in every cultural, ethnic and income group that exists, affecting millions of children in all age groups. There are some people who believe that for the first time in history, we as a society are beginning to address the prevalence of child abuse. Other people worry that some have become obsessed with child abuse and have no personal responsibility for their problems from the choice of the blame for the abuse and bad parenting. Obviously, then, that some very large contexts and differences of views are shaping the debate on certain issues concerning child abuse. We should all agree, however, that the whole of society should be educated on the facts of child abuse. Below is a list of features are very common in families living with child abuse.

Child abuse is physical – shaking, hitting, hitting, kicking or throwing, and burning, or biting a child.

Is emotional child abuse – or putting in the blame for a child with constant yelling and / or shame.

Child sexual abuse – any sexual contact or forced sexual stimulation is not appropriate for a lot of children.

Child abuse is neglect – failure to provide a child from physical needs such as food, clothing, shelter and medication, lack of provision for the emotional needs of children, affection, attention and supervision. Even an encounter with an attacker can entice the child to lie, resentment, fear and retaliation against their loved ones, instead of loving, trusting and listening to them.

Abuse can all mean different things to different all children, and may occur once or many times. Child abuse can happen in any family, period. Abuse is always wrong and is never the fault of the child. Abuse victims are not aware of them to say. Threatening children with violence against loved ones. Abusers are aware that the shame associated with sexual activity makes the child especially reluctant to tell anyone.

Secretary of Health and Human Services Donna Shalala said recently that between 1986 and 1993, cases of children who were victims of physical violence that had nearly doubled. She based this statement on the increasing number of reports of child abuse that had been reported to the American Academy of Pediatrics. His statement also includes information on the policy to tell the difference between sudden infant death syndrome and child abuse deaths. Ms. Shalala was commenting on the treatment of children with disabilities, along with guidelines for the evaluation of suspected child sexual abuse.The National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect was released in September 1996, monitoring of previous studies that were conducted in 1980 and 1986. The new study found that child abuse and neglect were much worse. Definitely has a lot of sense that the number of cases of abuse may be increasing. Child Abuse is expected to rise to drug and alcohol abuse is at a high and households are becoming the norm for society.

It should be a wake-up call for this country to learn that the majority of abused and neglected children never come to the attention of government authorities. This is particularly true for neglected and sexually abused, who may not have signs of physical damage. In the case of sexual abuse, intense feelings of shame prevent most children and adults who are aware that the abused child from getting help. Therefore, it only makes sense then that the official statistics of the Government can not declare the truth of all types of child abuse happens in our homes. Statistics are only on the basis that they are cases of abuse;

# 1. Reported to a social service agency,

# 2. Investigated by a worker in child protection, and finally

# 3. There was insufficient evidence to support a legal definition of “abuse” or “abandonment” has been established in the family.

This process can sometimes take weeks or months and can be frustrating, understandably, to all who are involved in the process, from the excess of child abuse prevention to working parents who are often desperate for immediate help.

Teach parents how to feed their children and discipline is an extremely important part in preventing child abuse and prevention costs but much less treatment, less than 10% of funds spent on child abuse go to prevent it. The Network for the Prevention of Child Abuse provides support to professionals in the prevention of child abuse, providing online resources and email lists. Its services include child abuse prevention and treatment, youth residential treatment programs, child care and family preservation.

U.S. help children is one of the largest and oldest national nonprofit dedicated to preventing child abuse and neglect and the treatment of their victims in the United States. Child support services include prevention education classes for parents of high risk to parents, parents caring for a child with a disability and home visiting programs for new parents. They also offer excellent programs to families who have certain risk factors such as substance abuse, parents of children with special needs, teenage parents, single mothers and low income families.

NCFV The place has a Publications section, many issues related to child abuse and neglect, child sexual abuse and family violence can be found there. NCFV also has a lot of videos about child abuse and family violence, the general public and / or professionals in this field.

The best place (in my opinion) for official statistics on child abuse must be the National Center for Child Protection. The Center is a great site with lots of full-text articles on the effects of child abuse and child abuse in general. Interested individuals can find sophisticated reports of child abuse, its effects and how to prevent it.

If you or someone you know that a child suspect is being abused, get involved. Contact your local social services office, which will remain anonymous and in most cases, the child will be visited by a social worker within 24 hours. We can all do our part to win the battle to eradicate child abuse and neglect in our society. Remember, child abuse, in any form is everyone’s business, and effective prevention must be woven into the fabric of our communities, the structure of our schools, hospitals, workplaces, faith communities, and care. The battle against the child remain in a rage and fight we can win.

Tips For Disciplining Children

Disciplining children can be a nightmare, but there are things we can do as parents and caregivers to make things easier for us. I taught my children at an early age that there are certain consequences of our actions, whether good or bad.

When our children learn to accept and abide by certain laws discipline makes them much easier. These are just some simple things that my children have learned in recent years:

* When I spend all my pocket money on the first day I have no money for the rest of the week
* If I am late for school I have a chance of stopping the master
If I stay at home and more likely that the fall hurt myself
* If you do not keep my room ordered most likely can not go out and play with my friends
* If you break the toy of someone who might have to replace it with one of my favorite toys
* If you want me to tell my brother will most likely not play with me very often
If I take my hat to school I will not get to play on the playground at lunchtime

The above examples take the pressure off having to find ways to discipline our children. We must learn the consequences of use to our advantage as far as possible. The good thing about this is that the consequences will happen when we do not need to take part and growl or do anything. Most of these are natural consequences that are a direct effect of an action not so good before.

There are good consequences that follow major decisions and here are some examples:

If my room is tidy, the mother is likely to let me go to my friend’s house
* If I’m always at school on time I will have a good reputation and teachers will be happy with me
* If you save some money in my pocket to spend is reached later in the week

Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. Parents should not allow our children to use the consequences when it is a safety issue. An example would be to not let your child run in front of a car and let them learn to get involved.

Once children understand that this is how the world learn to respect the rules and then they will not see him as the enemy or spoil sport in their lives. This is important because you want to preserve their relationship with their children as much as possible.

At least eighty percent of our interaction with our children should be positive. To ensure that this helps our children to establish their self-esteem and feel good about themselves, which as we all know, is vital.

These are just some tips to help parents think about their plans on the discipline of children.